Although it may sound counter-intuitive, embrace your single status. Do the things that you wanted to, but couldn’t because you were in a relationship. Mr. Right is bound to come along when you least expect it. In the meantime, get to know the beautiful woman that you are and enjoy her company. Take that trip, make new friends, immerse yourself in that project that you always wanted to take on, or work on getting that promotion. Whatever it is, it would be silly not to take advantage of the ‘me’ time. Think of it as a blessing.
You are not a damsel in distress waiting for prince charming to save you. You are the heroine of your own tale. There is nothing sexier than a cool, independent, and confident chick. Relax! You’re awesome! Quit the nervous fretting and if there is something you like out there, take some initiative. Make a move and when you do go on that date, ditch the small talk, just be yourself. He’s probably feeling as awkward as you are, so don’t be afraid to take the lead and spark the conversation.
Mind your tongue however, reserve any judgment’s you may have and keep an open mind. You don’t necessarily need to pick neutral topics and for the love of God, you are not expected to agree with everything he may say. It’s good to have an opinion, but let him have his. Don’t force it.
So, there’s no chemistry? This is why you want to pick a casual first date where you can have a drink, chat, and politely leave. Alas, you agreed to a six-course sit-down dinner. Still, you’re a lady. Check your manners, put that phone on silent, make eye contact, and be friendly. Everyone enjoys having attention paid to them.
Offer to go “Dutch” on the bill; it’s the 21st Century. He will probably pick it up anyway, but showing that you’re not taking it for granted, sends the right message.
Lastly, have fun! Not every date is going to be a winner, but the point is you’re out there, you’re meeting people, and you’re having fun.