Dating guide for guys

First impressions count. If you’re meeting her for the first time, make sure you’re well put together and don’t look like you’ve just rolled out of bed; this sends the wrong message. If you’re absolutely clueless about what to wear, there’s nothing wrong with asking a mate for help.

Be prepared and rise to the occasion. It’s always a good idea to have a few default date options or venues that you already know and can be comfortable in, but always be considerate and ask her if she has any ideas or preferences. If it is the latter, make sure you’ve done your research before and know what you’re getting into. Gain bonus points by arriving a little early and NEVER leave a lady waiting.

Chivalry is not dead. In a world of Justin Beibers, try to be a Mr. Darcy. Act like a gentleman, compliment her, open the door and let her pass first, pull out her chair and wait for her to sit before you do. It doesn’t take much, but manners definitely matter.

Confidence, not cockiness. Hesitation implies uncertainty. You want to show that you can take charge and have initiative, but don’t push it too far. If you’re not a good conversationalist, it’s good to have a few neutral topics to fall back on; choose subjects she is comfortable with and if she’s taking the lead, let her. Most importantly make sure you acknowledge her and are paying attention. You’re golden if you remember what she wore and your last conversation.

Mind your language. You’re not watching a game of football with your friends. Always be yourself, but if you have a habit of cussing and using ‘lad speak’, please tone it down. Phrasing and vocabulary are vitally important. Trust me; she won’t enjoy being called a ‘fine hoe’! Try ‘ravishing’ or ‘beautiful’ on for size.

Finally, always reach for the cheque. We know it’s not the 50’s and you’re not obligated to pay, double standards and all, but it is good etiquette. That said, there is no shame in splitting the bill.